Finding Moments of Rest for a Peaceful Fall

Do you find that once October hits life begins to feel a bit frantic?  Schedules fill up and to-do lists run long. Home and family life can quickly begin to turn a little chaotic and feelings of overwhelm can start creeping in.  For someone who loves people but loves to be home even more, that gets old really fast. So this year, for the month of November, The Sweet Tea Sisters are going to try to engage in one or two simple things each week that will encourage us to slow down just a bit and enjoy a sweet moment of rest here and there.

Here’s a list of ten things that can be done anytime during the next five weeks–whenever it fits the schedule–but no pressure allowed! The goal here is not to add extra work or expense to the budget, but to find a few simple things that, with minimal effort, cost or prep work, will hopefully energize our spirit and bring moments of rest in the chaos. There is no set time frame for this–there isn’t a particular day of the week or even a particular week to do any of the activities.  If it makes your life easier you could schedule some, while others you may decide on at the last minute.  You don’t even need to do all ten–five is the goal, but you know the SweetTea Sisters like to have OPTIONS and sometimes we might feel like doing a little extra!

Any of these things can be done by yourself, with your family, or with a group of friends.  Mix it up!  Welcome to The Sweet Tea Sisters 5 in 5 Restful Fall Challenge, and we’d love to have you join us!

Here’s what’s on our list and some thoughts about each one.

  1. Eat dinner by candlelight
    This does not mean you need to make a fancy dinner or set the table with cloth napkins and wine goblets–but you certainly could if that’s what will bring you joy without stress!  There’s a good chance we will dish up our food in the kitchen and take our plates to the dining room table, or maybe even our living room coffee table! But there’s just something about candlelight that makes even the most humble thing feel special and relaxing about candlelight. In fact this sounds like the perfect way to elevate a pizza and paper plate evening! 
  2. Send someone a card or letter of encouragement
    Stopping to take the time to think about and then tell someone how grateful you are for someone is usually a sure-fire way to put yourself in a better frame of mind (and heart).  Instead of focusing on all the chaos and to-do lists swirling around, take a moment to be thankful for the blessing of the people God has placed in your life. 
  3. Movie Night
    We love a good movie and sometimes a mid-week movie with a big bowl of popcorn sounds delightful! A pile of blankets and pillows, your favorite pajamas, and a cup of hot cocoa with whipped cream and sprinkles are a great way to enjoy 2 hours.
  4. Go to bed early
    Pull out a sleep mask, diffuse a little essential oils and hit the hay 30-45 minutes earlier than usual with the mindset to do a little relaxing breathing while thanking God for some of the things you’re thankful for as you fall asleep.  
  5. Buy a bouquet of flowers
    Fresh flowers are a great way to lift drooping spirits.  Pick up a bunch or two from your local grocery and divide them into a few smaller arrangements to place all around your home to bring spots of life and color when the world outside is getting darker and colder earlier and earlier.  If you have a florist you love and it fits your budget you can get a great bouquet from there as well. (If you want to be even more extra, grab a extra bouquet and share it with a friend!) 
  6. Take a leisurely bath or shower
    When it’s chilly outside, warm up with water! Use all the pretty smelling lotions and potions, light a few candles, play some soothing music and soak up the moisture until you feel sufficiently pruney. (Shaving your legs is an option, not a necessity!) 
  7. Schedule coffee or tea with a friend
    In person or over a video call, in a home or at a cafe, just schedule some time for an uninterrupted heart to heart chat with a dear friend. Make sure to include some belly laughs if at all possible! 
  8. Game Night
    Invite a few people to get together to play a few games or assemble a puzzle.  No need to make a big meal–a potluck hot cocoa bar is fun and simple!
  9. Read
    Put the phone away, turn off the TV, slip into your favorite cozies, and spend a little time reading whatever you love…magazines, scientific journals, biographies, chick-lit, novels, gossip rags…whatever will give your brain a little break!
  10. Eat dessert
    Bake it, pick it up at the grocery, or get it from your favorite bakery, but indulge in your favorite dessert.  Slow down and really enjoy every bite! 

None of these things are hard, magical, or even unusual, but when done with intention, a thankful heart, and a mind to enjoy them fully, they might bring some much needed rest into the middle of what can quickly become a season long to-do list.

Do you need to find a few minutes of rest this season?  Follow us on Instagram, check out our stories throughout the month of November to follow along, and then join us in this challenge! Use our  list or make your own. Either way, we’d love to hear what you do– tag @thesweetteasisters and use #STS5in5restfulfallchallenge to share your peaceful moments on Instagram.

XOXO,

Shan and Doe

Let It Go! (The Pressure of Entertaining, that is…)

When I was growing up, it was common for people to just drop in for a visit, especially on Sunday afternoons. I loved this as a child because you never knew who might show up or who you might drop in on. 

As a young adult, I found this terrifying! For me having someone into my home required at least a little preparation and warning!

When we were first married and had young children our get-togethers revolved almost entirely around friends with small children or family. These didn’t require a lot of planning or preparation. We were all in the same boat…exhausted and running in all directions. There wasn’t Pinterest or any social media to tell us we were doing it wrong.  We’d gather potluck style, use paper plates, play games and let the kids run wild! The only time I made a big effort was at our annual Christmas party where I really looked forward to trying new recipes out on my friends! I remember one year I made crab (artificial) quiche and I felt so fancy!

Once the kids were older and mostly out of the house something changed and I felt pressure to make things nicer, better….perfect. I would drive myself crazy making sure that every nook and cranny was spotless. The house needed to be decorated and every detail seen to. A menu was chosen that would be sure to impress. By the time my guests arrived I was too tired and worn out to really enjoy the evening and I usually needed a couple of days to recover! 

Where did this pressure come from? Myself! I was the person driving the crazy train! It got to the point that we just stopped having people over. Oh sure, there were other reasons that also led to that happening, but I think mostly I was exhausted. I just couldn’t keep up.

After not having anyone in our home other than family for so long, the thought of inviting anyone in filled me with fear. Fear of rejection, of judgment, of not being or doing enough. But I was lonely and missed the sweet fellowship of people. 

And the Lord was working on my heart. He started to impress on me the need to be faithful to steward the home He had given us. A place with plenty of room inside and out, a place people could hopefully come and feel welcome and loved. A place to share His love with others.  I no longer wanted to “entertain”, I wanted to extend hospitality–to just minister, encourage, and love.  To build and strengthen relationships with the people He placed in my life.

So, I put on my big girl panties and invited a group of ladies over for lunch. They were all co-workers of mine. I wasn’t sure they would accept the invitation when I extended it, but they did and we had a lovely time together! I made a simple lunch of chicken salad with croissants. Nothing fancy. Still, I fretted over the house and food before they got there. Was it good enough? The laughter and conversation we shared around the table told me that fretting was an unnecessary burden I placed on myself. But it was going to take baby steps for me to adapt.

As I continued to reach out to various friends and acquaintances it became easier and less scary. I began to loosen up…a BIT. 

Two of my favorite memories are of having our dear friends, Marc, Lisa, Marina, Ed, Johnny, and Stacy over for PIZZA! Take and bake! Not even homemade, and I think we may even have used paper plates! BUT we had the best time! 

Another time we hosted a chili feed with some friends from church, some neighbors, and my brother and sister-in-law. We had several pots/types of chili to sample and once again the laughter and conversation flowed! I was getting the hang of it! More fun get-togethers continued to happen, and then…COVID! 

Oh, how I missed my friends and vowed to have them over ASAP! Like many of you, the pandemic changed a lot of my thinking, especially about things that are important and one thing that became ever clearer to me was that it was the fellowship that mattered, not the perfection of the house of food. 

So with that in mind, when the time finally came to have friends in again the pressure was OFF. I let myself off the hook with having to feel like everything was just so and doing everything myself. One of ”my” rules had always been that the first time someone comes over to my house for dinner, they don’t bring anything. We provide it all, do it all, but not this last time! This time I asked almost everyone to bring something to share and it was wonderful! And you know what? I didn’t even mop my kitchen floor! And no one even pointed it out with shocked and judging eyes!

I still enjoy doing things well and trying to make my guests feel special. That hasn’t changed, but the internal pressure I placed on myself is no longer weighing me down….Oh, the freedom!

So here’s my new hospitality manifesto:

1) I  Keep it simple. In summer BBQ is perfect. In the cooler months, I  try to choose a one-dish recipe or a crock pot meal. Amy Hannon’s Roast Cobbler from her Love, Welcome, Serve cookbook is a favorite around here. And don’t forget there’s always pizza!

2) I let my guests share in the joy of providing part of the meal.

3) I focus on getting the main areas we will use clean (especially the bathrooms) and don’t sweat the rest.

4) Let the Lord lead in the inviting.  He’s the master mixer! 

5) Relax. Breathe. Enjoy

What about you, friend? Are you caught in the web of perfection, running yourself ragged, trying to impress instead of bless? We’d love to hear what’s on your heart and if you have any of your own tips to share! Leave us a comment!

XOXO,

Shan

25 Ideas to Add to Your Fall Bucket List

Sometimes we forget that hospitality begins at home with the people closest to us. Fall is creeping up on us and while many places may not be as accessible as we are used to there are still LOTS of ways we can make this season special. We’ve made a list of 25 simple things you can do to wow your family as the weather cools off.  

We’ve even put them into a cute Fall Bucket List for you to print and mark off as you go.  As you check off your adventures, be sure to take some photos.  You’ll want to remember this season for sure!  Be sure to share your favorite photos to Instagram and tag thesweetteasisters in your post.  We can’t wait to join in the fun!

Make a thankful-for list

There is always something to be grateful for no matter what the circumstances we may find ourselves in. Why not take a few moments and jot down just a couple of the things that come to mind.

Jump in a pile of leaves

Rake them up in your back yard or head to a park and pile them up there! This is a great activity to do with the kids and the perfect opportunity to take some fun fall pictures.

Make caramel apples

When was last time you sunk your teeth into a sticky, yummy, caramel apple? Make some with your kids or grandkids and be sure and let us know how they turn out!

Go for a scenic drive

Take the back roads and enjoy the beautiful fall colors in your area.

Make chili and cornbread

Whether it’s canned or from scratch, serving your favorite chili paired with some delicious hot out of the oven cornbread will make for a fun family meal.

Buy a new fall scented candle or make your own

There are so many delightful candles out these days, you’re sure to find just the right one for your home. If you’re feeling crafty you could even make your own! Bonus points if you drop one off on a friend’s doorstep to brighten their day!

Volunteer at a soup kitchen

Is there a soup kitchen in your area where you and your family can serve? If not, consider making a donation to your local food pantry. 

Try a new soup recipe

Fall is the perfect time to try out a new soup, if you enjoy baking maybe try making homemade bread to go with it!

Plant bulbs for next spring

Take a few minutes to plant those bulbs now and you will be able to enjoy some lovely spring blooms later!

Roast marshmallow over a campfire

Can anyone resist roasting a marshmallow over a roaring campfire? Step things up a notch and make your favorite S’mores recipe!

Buy matching cozy socks for your whole family

A new pair of cozy socks will keep your toes toasty! Or do a sock swap with your best girlfriends as a fun way to welcome in fall!

Have a family game night

Try out a new game or maybe a family favorite like Charades, Old Maid, or Monopoly! Don’t forget some fun snacks!

Bundle up for a picnic in the park

Get your warm sweaters and boots on, grab a big blanket, pack up a lunch, and head to your favorite park! Enjoy the changing colors and brisk fall air!

Make your favorite quick bread

Have a recipe you’ve been wanting to try? Maybe Pumpkin, Zucchini, or Applesauce? This is the perfect opportunity! 

Parking lot tailgate party

Grab some friends, pack up your lunch or dinner, lawn chairs, tables, and meet up in a local park or store parking lot for some tailgating. Just because we have to physically distance doesn’t mean we can’t be social! 

Make apple crisp and have a movie night

Enjoy your favorite Apple Crisp recipe or search the web for a new one, settle down with a cozy blanket, and watch an old black and white movie. Charades, Arsenic and Old Lace, and Rear Window are all wonderful old movies. 

Help a neighbor rake their leaves

Grab your rake or leaf blower and help your neighbor clear their yard of leaves. Blow or rake them into a pile and JUMP in!

Hang a fall wreath for your front door

Pinterest has lots of great DIY wreaths you can try, but if crafting isn’t your style check out a local hobby store. Be sure to take a picture to share on social media.  Be sure to tag us so we can see!

Learn how to knit

Fall is the perfect time to learn something new and who wouldn’t love a handmade scarf just as the weather gets cooler.

Have a fall photoshoot

Go with a professional or snap some with your phone and a tripod. Check out Pinterest for some fun photo booth prop ideas! 

Make a scarf out of an old sweater

Do you have some old sweaters lying around? This would be a great way to upcycle them. YouTube has some great tutorials for this!

Put together a fall puzzle

Puzzles are a fun way to get the whole family involved in an activity. Walmart and Target have a variety of puzzles for all different skill levels, or Amazon can deliver one right to your door!

Read a book by the fire

Curl up with a nice warm blanket and a book by your favorite author and enjoy some much-needed downtime. Make it a family event and do a chapter book read-aloud all month.

Go for a fall hike and collect leaves

Take to the local trails and collect some of the falling leaves for a lovely fall centerpiece.

Have an outdoor movie night

Invite a few friends over for a physically-distanced, outdoor movie night. Check out some of the ideas on Pinterest to make this happen in your backyard!

Don’t forget your FREE printable Bucket List here.

XOXO,

Shan & Doe